The decision to take care of yourself and achieve balance is one of the best decisions anyone could ever make. However, most of us are doing it for all the wrong reasons. When you decide to balance your life, you need to ask yourself who am I really doing it for. Most of us are stuck seeking balance to impress others or for reasons that are not our own when it should be a personal decision.
Avoid outside influence
People will always have an opinion on how we should run our lives. This is just the sad reality that we have become accustomed to. However, that does not mean that we should take their opinions as law and follow them. For instance, nutrition is one of the most opinionated areas of our lives and people will always try to guide you to conform to their standards. However, you should only do what works for you, not for the benefit of others. If you feel that you should gain or lose weight, stop or start a diet or any other nutritional decision, then it should be your personal decision and you should shut out all the outside noise.
Balance can only be achieved if it is a personal goal
One of the greatest contradictions is seeking balance for the benefit of others. For instance, when you decide to lose weight because someone suggested it, this might be a step towards seeking balance. However, doesn't it also mean that the social and psychological aspects of your life are out of balance? In this case, you will find that you have an over-dependence on other's opinions of yourself, low confidence, poor esteem, unhealthy desire to please others and other issues. That is why I suggest that balance is only achievable if it is your personal choice, decision and goal.
Influence vs help
It is sad to say that not everyone around you has your best interests at heart. As a result, some people will leech onto you and try and create their own influences on you, under the disguise of helping you. It is important that you separate the two. People who try to deceive you and control your life in one way or another to their benefit, are an imbalance that you should do away with. Nevertheless, this shouldn’t keep you from asking for help when you need it. This might seem contradictory but it is actually very clear when you realize that help doesn't and shouldn't come with strings attached.
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