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Writer's pictureAimee Reese

Accept What You Can't Change

There are always situations in the life of the average human which poses a challenge to them as individuals and sometimes alters their whole world. When faced with challenges, most people are lost and confused on how to handle these situations. When confronted with a sad situation, we often go through a series of emotions, responses, and reactions to this situation. Different people, of course, react differently to the same situation. Our instincts to either fight or escape the situation will not always work but would often define our response to the problem.


As with unique characters, there will always be the need to try and reverse the situation if possible. A lot of time, dedication and resources are put into getting things back to status quo. When this is possible, it is probably the best response to a bad situation. But in the case where there can be no reversals or change to what is already on ground, and you cannot alter the situation, the best solution is to accept the inevitable situation and move on. So many of life’s situations end like this, and for healing and recovery to commence, acceptance is the first step.


Accept whatever you cannot change, be it the death of a loved one, failure, or the end of a relationship. Some situations can only not change, and the first step in moving on is accepting this fact. Recognizing what can't be modified will help you to make moves towards getting to a better place and overcoming this failure, pain or setback. After acceptance comes grief, and after this comes healing and strength to move on.


Accept what you can't change; when all else fails, accepting the situation will help you be less stressed. You will be able to face whatever problems arise from a negative situation and focus on the ways to solve these problems. Even when you think you don't have the strength to move on, you will be surprised at the reserves of strength you would find within when you make a choice to accept the situation and move on. You let go of the paralysis and debilitating pain that comes with a terrible situation and you are empowered for greater things.


Some failures and setbacks are opportunities for growth and re-evaluation whose potential you can realize or exploit only if the reality of the situation is accepted. If you have tried so much and expended so much energy in trying to make something work out or become better, then maybe it's time to accept the person, relationship or situation for what it is and move on or act accordingly.


A refreshing start doesn't always mean you have left the pain behind; rather it is you giving yourself a chance for happiness and growth. Not everything is in your circle of influence or your control. And though this is sometimes frustrating, there is nothing to be gained from holding on to an unbend-able situation.


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