Everyone has their low moment. Feelings of anger, discouragement, and disappointment are part of life. Whether at home, your workplace or anywhere else, there will always be times, when people will speak or act in ways that you do not like. At this point, you may feel upset, irritated and not good enough. You will be surprised to know, however, that those unkind words or actions done towards you are not responsible for your feelings of hurt, anger, and inadequacy. Instead, it is your belief about the situation that makes you feel bad. For instance, if someone says you are inept, it is your belief that will determine your response. While some people become enraged at hearing such word, others may shrug it off as a misunderstanding or as jealousy. If you believe that you are smart and competent, the word will mean nothing to you, and you will therefore not feel bad about yourself. But if you have always doubted your ability, you will definitely feel hurt when someone points out your ineptitude. You need to understand that you can't control what others think, say or do. It is unreasonable to always expect people to say nice things about you. You are human, and you can't please everyone. When people speak ill of you, do not take all of their words to heart. Instead of feeling like a terrible person, think of it this way: some of them may not know you well enough, others may not know the right way to express themselves, and still, others may be haters. Now nobody is saying that you should consider every criticism or unpleasant speech as a mere thoughtless remark from those who do not know the real you. Sometimes there may be some truth in those words. It takes humility and courage to accept correction when your mistakes are pointed out to you. So when people say things that are ‘not so nice’ about you, ask yourself if there is any truth in what they have said. If you find it to be true, don't feel bad, instead look at it as an opportunity to improve yourself. When you stay focus on the negative, you give yourself and others the consent to make you feel bad. You alone have the authority to dictate how you see yourself. And the way you see yourself determines how you handle all the negativity around you. If you think of yourself as a no good, you will not be able to cope with challenges that life throws at you. Believing in your worth as a human being helps to ward off feelings of inferiority. Yes, you may not be able to accomplish everything you dream of right now, but with time and hard work, you will get there. If you believe that you are good enough, there is nothing that anybody can say or do to make you think less of yourself. Stop using the achievements of other people to measure your progress. Your skills, your talent, and your abilities differ.
