It is one thing to forgive and another to let go of the hurts, the feelings and the way you want to get back at them. It is not unusual to hear people say “I can forgive, but I cannot let go.” Well, if you forgive and don’t let go, then you have not truly forgiven. Letting go is what makes you feel the power of forgiveness. When you let go, you erase from your mind the hurts and the pains. But forgiving and not letting go will always bring you back to the day you were hurt.
I know it is not easy to let go, I know it is just difficult actually to act as if nothing ever happened, but that is the beauty of the life we live in. When you have finally forgiven and let go, you become freer and happier. Forgiving and letting go is a feat that you must always strive to achieve. It is simply because, as long as you live among people, you will always get hurt. People will always hurt you and make you feel bad. Ask yourself this question, how many of such hurts and pains you can carry for the rest of your life? You see that’s a problem, because, although the mind is capable of storing millions of information, you don’t want to have junks in your head. You don’t want anytime you try to remember something good you will first have to maneuver through junks of hurts and pains in your mind caused by others.
Let it go and move on. There is one thing failing to forgive and let go will always do to you; it will always bring you back to the day you were hurt. So let’s say Jessica hurt her friend Ella. They quarreled about it, and Jessica apologized, Ella forgave her but refused to let go. Each time Ella sees Jessica, she will always remember the day Jessica hurt her and she would feel that pain again. This will continue over and over until one day she would take it out on Jessica. She would eventually say it or act it. Now you can imagine how Jessica would feel knowing that her friend who told her that she had forgiven her did not forgive her. They are obviously going to have some trust issues. Ella will not trust Jessica again as a result of the wrong she suffered from Jessica that she has refused to let go.
Not letting go is antisocial behavior that will destroy relationships. There is no point in storing up junks about people in your head when you have a whole lot of information out there waiting for you. You can act like it won’t matter as long as you have forgiven, but it is only a matter of time before you realize how much it has always mattered.
It will do you no harm to learn to forgive and let go. You don’t have to feel a particular pain over and over again. Just let go and enjoy the power of forgiveness. You will live happier, healthier and you will always enjoy a good social and psychological atmosphere wherever you find yourself.
