Yesterday, we learned that each time we say yes to something we are also saying no to another thing. Today, we will see how saying no is as important as saying yes in your pursuit of fulfillment. The difference between success and failure is goal setting and goal accomplishment. First of all, remember that success is relative. What qualifies as success varies depending on the individual. However, one thing is sure; those who are successful set goals and accomplish them against all the odds. Everyone is given 24 hours in a day but how each person spends that 24 hours vary due to several factors. You might be so busy with work and family life that you may not find the time to focus on your goals. Prioritizing between what you want now and what you want most is crucial.
Sometimes, to get what you want most, you must be willing to say no to what you want now. To illustrate, you have parents who you love and always want to satisfy. Your parents want you to follow a career path that isn't what you want for yourself. In such a situation, you'll be stuck between two hard choices: pleasing your parents (what you want now) or chasing your dreams (what you want most). If you say no to your parents, you will not get their approval to chase your dreams but saying no to them also means saying yes to your goals. To help you get closer to your goals, you need to make tough calls and say no as much as you say yes. When you're faced with two difficult choices, ask yourself which one of them will make a lasting difference in your life and bring you closer to your goal. Any decision that puts the opinions of others over what you feel is best for you should be avoided. Many people think they know what is best for you but they don't see the flaws in their reasoning. To face your goals, you will have to say no to certain tasks and requests from people. Do not despair: no isn't always a bad thing. If you notice that some people or decisions are holding you back from reaching your goal, remember that life is too short to live for others or live in sadness, take a bold step, reevaluate your life, and say no to everyone and everything that is holding you back. Some Tips That Can Help You Say No To Others 1. Speak confidently and maintain eye contact when you are refusing a request. The person in question should know that you have no fear. 2. Clearly, refuse the request with without being defensive or wasting time. For example, if an ex wants you back and you feel that person is dead weight, don't wait to think about it, say no and mean it. If it is a request you need to think about, tell the person in question that you need time to consider it and you will not want to be pressured during the time. When you know what you want, who you are and where you are headed, saying no to anything that isn't in line will be easy. So, define yourself, set clear goals and work hard to achieve them.
