Being nice and reliable is good, but it becomes a problem when you start trying to please everyone to the detriment of your happiness. We are all born with a blank mind. From infancy, we learn the difference between right and wrong through socialization. As we grow up, we subconsciously make most decisions under the influence of those close to us. The line between being a happy person and a people pleaser is relatively thin. If you have discovered that you make most decisions based on what others think or feel, then you need to take bold steps and make some changes. You don't need to give up on who you are just to please someone else. You don't need to suffer just to please everyone in your life. Give enough of yourself to others but don't ever give too much. Some individuals just enjoy making an issue out of virtually everything. If you try to please people like that? You'll end up being bitter and unhappy. There are no boundaries regarding who these people can be. It could be anyone from your boss to your family members. Don't allow your relationship with these people to run your life. You can't live your life pleasing them every day. You need to put yourself first. The single reason why you should do this is that you cannot please everyone all the time. The only person you can actually please is yourself. So, why don't you focus on that? Always remember that you are worth more than anyone's approval. When you feel like you're being used by those around you, stop, take a step back, and remind you that you are more valuable than that. Your ability to provide for others doesn't define you. Always take care of your needs before you think of satisfying another person's needs. Trying to please another person might require that you compromise who you are. A relationship (family and otherwise) that requires that you compromise who you are is abusive and should be cut short. Never forget that doing what others expect and doing what is best for you isn't always the same thing. Sometimes the person you are trying to please might not be in your best interest. That person might not even be on the right side of the issue. How possible do you think it would be to please such people? Well, it would be impossible. So, don't even try. No matter how nice and reliable you are, you can never please everyone in your life. An attempt will leave you looking like the devil when you finally take a stand for yourself. In summary, life is short, and everyone gets just one shot at it. You have two options for the opportunity you have to live: put yourself first and make the most out of your life or, put others first and live to regret it. The power lies with you. The sooner you learn to stop being a host to abusive relationships the better for you. No one has the power to please anyone but themselves. So, stop trying and just be yourself. Have courage, be kind to others but never assume the position of a god whose responsibility is to make others happy all the time.
