BEING A BULLY IS NOT THE WAY TO GAIN FRIENDS OR RESPECT, BEING KIND, HELPFUL AND COURTEOUS ARE WAY MORE EFFECTIVE.
As we experience life, we meet a lot of people and at most of the time, we find out that many among all these people we meet have something they do better than we can. This discovery spurns up the inquisitive and competitive person in us, and we want to learn how they can do something different.
The process of making an acquaintance involved some steps which requires that a person be polite, patient, kind, courteous and attentive to help the other while asking to learn. This process may be easily experienced by most people; but can still seem difficult for most other persons who have problems with their self-esteem.
Self-esteem as defined by the Oxford dictionary is the confidence in one's own worth or abilities. So, a person who lacks good self-esteem may not want to go through the courteous and patient process of making friendly acquaintances. This person then resorts to bullying, hoping that this would make the other person loose the thing that makes them stand out. A Bully, according to the Oxford dictionary is a person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. The act puts the bully in a very angry mood and exposes how cowardly they are to making friends.
Making friends with people, especially people who can teach us their special abilities requires us to ask them politely to teach us their knowledge, respect their feelings, be helpful and kind to them and try as much as possible to be courteous to them. Taking this approach to make a new friend is always most effective when we are patient and it is far better to be courteous than to try making friends by being a bully.
I think we should discuss some of the many disadvantages of being a bully; this will help explain why we should really avoid it. The first is that being a bully gets a person into trouble with authorities, whether in schools or in the larger society. Authorities are positioned to maintain peace and order and bullying goes against orders to harm people. Secondly, being a bully exposes the fact that the person is lacking in something but tries so hard to hide the feeling; this portrays emotional cowardice. And more to the disadvantages is that people will begin to avoid a person who is a bully, the bully will clearly miss a lot of opportunities to learn about some new abilities. These disadvantages and many others will build up to continue reducing the self-esteem of the bully.
The better way to make new friends as already mentioned, is to show courtesy and accept to learn what they are ready to teach. You will stand to benefit the advantages which include being happy at most of the time, having to share gifts with many friends, and getting help when you need it; these are just to mention a few.
